Your Most Important Relationship + A Secret


I have a secret.

I’ve been letting someone down.

It’s been a crazy last few months full of highs and lows, tears and excitement, love and stress.

And amidst it all, I finally realized my big problem: I’ve been letting down one of the most important relationships in my life.

The relationship with myself.

Huh? – You might say.

Selfish? You might think.

No….not to me.

You see, I’ve done a lot of work to get to a place of believing in myself. And just like that, I realized when the going gets tough, it’s really easy to say “sayonara self – I’ve got too much worrying to do.”

What’s THAT about??

It’s not easy to stay positive when you don’t see positivity in yourself.


It’s not about easy…it’s about what’s worth it. (Click to tweet)

It takes a decision to be true to yourself.

It takes a decision to be happy.

It takes a decision to be positive.

It takes a decision to keep believing.

Here’s what helped me get back to me:

1. ‘NEXT’ your negative thoughts. As soon as something negative pops into your mind, mentally say ‘NEXT!’ and turn it around. The worst thing you could do is let it consume you and turn into 3, or 5 more negative thoughts or patterns in a row.

2. Have faith. Whether you’re religious or not, spiritual or not, you can practice this. You don’t have to make this religious. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason, and having faith will allow you to calm your mind and ease your soul. It centers me, grounds me, and allows me to keep going.

3. Keep your promises to yourself. If you don’t, why should anyone else? Enough said.

4. Do something you love. Quiet time reading; a day of movies; a day away from technology. It’s what the Dr. prescribes.

5. Don’t do this alone. Talking about what’s on your mind can literally squash any silly or negative thinking to the core. As someone very wise always tell me: be logical. Talking it out will do just that.

Can you relate?

Do you have any tips to make the most out of life and stay positive?

I’d love to hear from you! My intention is for this to be a place of support and community – so, please do share!



  • Lorena Hampton

    after years of caring for others (family, friends, patients, co-workers, pets, etc), i was letting myself just get old. i could literally feel myself aging. i would look at other people my age and somehow decided that getting old was my only option. everyone else my age was letting themselves just, well, age. but then i decided i refuse to grow old gracefully. i’m fighting it every step of the way. but every now & then i would slump back into my “i’m too old to do that” mentality and start letting myself slide back to the bottom of my “things to take care of” list.

    then i realized that if i’m going to get motivated and stay motivated, i would need outside stimulation. something i could do by myself, for myself. so i joined crossfit. the ability to get away from the house a few hours a week (long, grueling, sweat filled, curse word thinking, muscle pounding hours) have changed my whole outlook. it gets me away from chores. away from sitting on my ass on the computer. away from concerns about work. i don’t worry about the past five minutes or the upcoming five. all i can concentrate is that one set, that one rep. it’s how i’ve found time to be alone while being with others. it’s how i put my own personal priorities FIRST without worrying about anyone else, even if it is for just a few hours a week. but those are MY hours.

    i had to start somewhere, right?

    • http://www.lindsayshack.com lindsay

      That’s so great – I’m so glad you’ve found something like that. Community and support just makes everything better. I realized the more I take time for me, the better I can be for the world.